A morbid topic? Yes it is and I’m sorry. But I need to get this off my chest. My world was shaken this year due to the unexpected loss of a family member. In a challenging attempt to find solace with the situation, I came to a realization…words are shit.
The following will be a rambling of randomness…just various thoughts that have been in my head these past few months. I’m using my site as an opportunity to share my thoughts and to essentially use it as a “therapy” session as I typically feel much better after expressing my thoughts.
Back to my point – words are shit. I’ve been saying words for years. I’ve been reading words for years. I’m actually typing words this very second. I love reading words, I love motivational quotes, listening to podcasts that share powerful messages with words, watching movies that use words to take me on a journey and tell me an interesting story. But at the end of the day, those words are just that; words. Unless you actually do something and take action, then what good are they?
Words can be extremely powerful and motivating and sometimes hearing the right word or phrase or quote is just what you need to get focused and accomplish the task at hand. Recently, I feel like I’ve been missing that “piece”…that connection of word –> to action. Have I actually been “doing” or have I just been “saying“? There’s a huge difference. The old quote, “Actions speak louder than words” could not be more true.
Please don’t mistake me for saying that we shouldn’t read or write words, that’s obviously not my intent. The point of these words is to emphasize the importance of taking action.
I’ve read some great books in the last year or two regarding mindset and motivation:
These resources really show that people are motivated by different things…different strokes for different folks. A simple Nike ad might be all someone needs to help them run that last mile or finish that last set up pushups.
For me, while I absolutely LOVE inspiring quotes, I question whether or not they actually push me into action.
Sadly, it took the disappearance and recent loss of my uncle to really light a spark under my ass and to ignite my fire inside. I hate the fact that that’s the case, but I plan to use this heartbreak as motivation to follow a dream I’ve had since college. If you’ve lost someone close to you, then you can relate to the slap in the face that it gives you. The intense and heavy reminder that life is short and if you aren’t happy and enjoying your days, then what the f are you doing?! What’s the point of living the rat race lifestyle? Sleep, work, eat, repeat. Screw that. Right after college I did attempt the typical 9-5 desk job lifestyle…wasn’t for me at all. I hate sitting for extended periods, and working at something that didn’t inspire me or challenge me was so depressing that I couldn’t handle it. That prompted my move to San Diego years ago where I really began my fitness career. Fitness has, and always will be, an integral part of my life. Helping people live happier lives is my inspiration. Whether it’s a MMA champ who hugs me after a big win (Dom & Mike) or a lawyer or accountant who hugs me because they had to buy smaller pants…I don’t care what the goal was, it was the journey and success of achieving that goal that excites me and keeps me doing what I do.
I’ve worn a bunch of different hats in the fitness industry throughout my 17 years…
- Intern, front desk, personal trainer – college
- Continuing education provider, conference booth worker – ACE
- Personal trainer, strength coach, corporate Operations Director – Fitness Quest 10 & Todd Durkin Enterprises
- MMA strength and conditioning coach – Alliance MMA
- Business owner, workshop presenter, curriculum creator, content (DVDs, e-books) creator – DB Strength
- Head coach, program creator, facility design, opening a new gym in a foreign country – Saudi Arabia
I have loved all my fitness industry jobs over the years. I’ve met so many amazing people and have made countless life-long friends along the way.
One thing missing from that solid list is my own facility. I’ve worked at some amazing spaces over the years, and most recently, I helped to create and open the most amazing one yet out in Jeddah, Saudi Arabia. Sadly, I called none of these places “home”.
I want to continue to design programs and create systems out in Saudi…we have started something great out there and I plan to stay a part of that journey. However, back here in the states, I am now going to begin the next chapter of my fitness career. It’s time to find that space; that place I can call home.
Confession – I cried at least three times while writing this fairly brief post. Am I soft? Am I a wimp? Ha, perhaps a bit. Or maybe this “writing therapy” is just so powerful and moving for me that actually seeing this dream and vision of mine actually written down on paper (ok, screen…work with me here), that I’m moved emotionally.
Maybe words aren’t shit after all.
About Doug Balzarini
Doug Balzarini, CSCS, MMA-CC, is the owner of DB Strength, which provides fitness training, education, and resources. He is also the strength and conditioning coach for Alliance MMA where he works with UFC Champion Dominick Cruz, Bellator Champion Michael Chandler, Phil Davis, Brandon Vera, Travis Browne, Ross Pearson, Alexander Gustafsson, and more. Prior to starting his own business, Doug worked at Fitness Quest 10 as a personal trainer, strength coach, and Operations Director for Todd Durkin Enterprises (TDE).
He has completed some graduate work in Biomechanics at SDSU and has obtained multiple certifications including ACE, NSCA-CSCS, MMA-CC, multiple CrossFit certifications, TFW Level 1, TRX instructor training, RIP training, EFI Gravity instructor training, LIFT Sandbag Certification, and FMS training. He has produced his 2 DVD projects on strength training for combat athletes, appeared in many fitness videos and articles, and was a coach on “The Ultimate Fighter” FOX TV show in 2012.
For more information please visit www.dbstrength.com.